The Real Thing... Love

Love  has  been the subject among me and my friends lately. Its one of the subjects i am really passionate about. Life has changed alot over the years. And the dating scene has really changed.

When I was growing up it was about be co-dependent with your partner. The man took care of the home and the woman supported him by maintaining the home.Even if she had a job they worked as a team to keep the house running. ( i got all of this in a single parent home). So i dont have an issue with my man going to work and  if i dont have to work making sure he had breakfast before he left, making sure he comes home to a clean home and a meal... washing his clothes. Cause he's a king in his castle. Thats not saying he runs me i enjoying it! just i enjoy going to work and helping with bills. Some men support there women working and helping cause he know she got his back just as he got hers...TEAM WORK!!!

Now days women are independent and say they dont need men they have there own cars and can provide for them self!!! i am cool with that. I work and i am getting myself together!!  But i know what its like to have a Man that wants to be in his place and provide and take care of me, protect me. Then there are some women who have a good man and still go out and cheat, they think they have the right to because they have been hurt!! WOW what happen to treat others how you want to be treated??  Believe it or not Men that are hurt wont trust their women just like the women wont trust their men. And some men cheat because we as women have become so independent they go out to find that woman that will make them feel like kings and needed.

So you could say okay i am a good woman i dont cheat i treat him right why he stepping out??? Have you asked him what he needs from you in the relationship or about his past to see where he is broken. And if you know this information what have you done as a woman to build him up? or help  repair that broken place?
And as a man did you take the time to get to know everything about your woman's past and wants for her future? I feel like these days we jump into things so fast without know who we are letting in..
Take time  to be a friend to your partner. Its a great feeling to know your totally open with them and they are open with you so that he/she feels they can come to you with anything and get an open response. I feel that if you put it all on the table then there are no surprises in the end.

I know for me i want someone i can run and tell my secrets to someone that i can be real with about the things that hurt me. or my fears. I think it will keep the arguing down if you can talk to them like one of your friends. I want my man to have the same freedom with me.  So instead of my running to the girls and him running to the guys we get to keep our relationship between us. And if we need guidance then we go to God about it. Love is not tricky or hard when your honest with each other.

FYI There are alot of  good guys in the world and alot of good women... Well all need to just be real and honest and open our hearts to the possibility of The Real Thing... LOVE

       

Love and let Love, Love you Back
SHE

The Hook...

So i was watching How I Met Your Mother... and this episode was about the Hook.. What is the hook you ask? The Hook: the invaluable leash you have on someone. This person can be an ex or just someone you don't really like but you know they will be there for you emotionally when you break up with someone or when  your lonely.

It made me wonder if i had someone on a hook or if i was on someones hook. As bad as the hook seems we all have one and sometimes they are dangerous. i mean if the the person u run to falls for you it could cause alot of heart break when you find someone you really want to be with. Now dont get me wrong  we all need that person we can lean on when were down but if it's like them coming over and you two watch movies cuddled up and end up making out and the next day you dont have feelings for them or even want to try anything with them then they may be your hook.....just some thought!! 

Love ya!

 SHE

 

NEW START...... REVAMP.

This is Inner Me (she)  am expression of me and my log of self discovery and self building through my thoughts and poems I write. So the question to some might be why the start over why delete the old. Cause I am new so my blog is too. What brought about the change?? Well a few weeks ago I decided to stop running and totally commit to God and his will cause i am tired of what i call the cycle of me. I am alot happier but as most people know there are two forces working in life and evil was waiting for a window to crawl into. In the past i am a easy person i am really nice and i give.. i give to the point it hurts to quote grays anatomy :" you give till it hurts then you stop and give more till it hurts again".  So lately i have been getting to the hurt place quicker and i have been meaner than normal. I have been known to put my life on hold for others and well lets just say my life is over being on hold. So i have found myself standing up for my feelings lately... for instance i didnt want to work on sunday in my normal 9 to 5 and they wouldnt let me off so i quit ( felt awesome) Then there was a guy i really liked but its not the best timing on his end so it was like we were playing tennis with our emotions and i told him how i really felt without  the normal its ok thing i usually pull so the other person wont feel bad..anyway I feel so good and now i can hang out with him without being all awkward ( yea still like him). And the big one is i had a conversation with my mom about my feelings and life ( and it wasnt an argument) It went really well and i feel better.. 

So now i am embarking on some real spiritual self discovery and healing and I excited and a little scared cause i know this is gonna take me out of what i am use too, but i hear i am a really strong chick ( we will see). As i take this journey into leaving the past and pushing for the best me i can be.. I will blog it out so you can come along!! Warning : I am human and this will be really raw the good the bad the confusing and the ugly so i am giving you the chance to run Now!!!!!!!  i Hope you getting something out of it and that as i grow you grow.. feel free to leave comments and anytime through this you wanna get closer to God i will be happy to help you with that too cause his light is all i have to give.. 

Love you and know your blessed

She